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Sunday, January 01, 2006

Sun, 01 Jan 2006 14:56:06 GMT

hey guys!

im sorry to say that i am leaving xanga for good...

i've already transferred to BLOGSPOT

but then again i MIGHT still update here, maybe, for much important causes...

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Friday, December 30, 2005

Fri, 30 Dec 2005 06:24:17 GMT

hi guys...

sorry for the VERY long inactive blog that i have... i am too busy to update this one. but i guess its time to be active again. hehe

ill try to experiment on other bloggings just to try them... but im not saying ill abandon my xanga... nonetheless ill still make another blog... ill see where i'll be more comfortable.

so til here nalang muna...

be back.

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Tue, 20 Sep 2005 11:21:59 GMT

PSEUDO RELATIONSHIP

This is for all of us..I know we've all had this kind of relationship sometime in our lives or still having it until this day or thinking about considering it in the future..

This is good read.. mga kapatid sa pananampalataya

She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out. They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe that "sila na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about it but it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's important is I am enjoying this -- whatever it is."

She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect. They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends." They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she's okay. They still date. They still have sex. They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't know the real score. Even her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."

She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding hands lagi? Sila kaya? "He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me. Parang kami, pero hindi."

They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she's assuming that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too. There's just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends/girlfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually the guy/girl --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl/guy (sabi niya makikipag-break siya roon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang. Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't commit, because they
were either committed to someone else, or that they weren't ready to commit.

My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi (but this happens to a guy also).

Una, you can't ask him/her to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you
can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can't be sure if
he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't. Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang
pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."

Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.

Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka. Magpakasaya ka. Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo
lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya... almost, but not quite.

Thursday, September 15, 2005

Thu, 15 Sep 2005 10:25:19 GMT

if you dress nicely, he says you`re a snob. if you dress sexy, he says you`re a slut. if you argue with him, he says you`re stubborn. if you`re quiet, he says you`re stupid. if youcall him, he says you`re needy& clingy. if he calls you, he says you should be grateful. if you don`t love him, he`ll try to win you. if you love him, he`ll leave you. if you don`t fuck him, he`ll say you don`t love him. if you do, he`ll say you`re easy. if you tell him your problems, he`ll say you`re irritating. if you don`t, he`ll say you don`t trust him. if youlecture him, he`ll say you`re bitchy. if he lectures you, it`s because he "cares". if you break a promise, you can`t be trusted. if he breaks it, he had to. if youcheat, he`ll expect it to be over. if he cheats, he expects to be given another chance either way ..

Thursday, September 15, 2005

Thu, 15 Sep 2005 10:08:33 GMT

You'll have a sweet relationship. To both of you,
it'll feel like it's first love again. You
might go slow, but it's long lasting. You care
for each other and will always be there no
matter what. Sometimes you can't even believe
you are this much in love.

What kind or relationship will you likely end up with? -=Great pics!=-
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Saturday, September 10, 2005

Sat, 10 Sep 2005 04:18:34 GMT

IS IT LOVE?!

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart
racing and is your voice caught within
your chest??
-It isn't love, it's LIKE.

You can't keep your eyes or hands off of
her, am I right??
-It isn't love, it's LUST.

Are you proud, and eager to show her
off??
-It isn't love, it's LUCK.

Do you want her because you know she's
there??
-It isn't love, it's LONELINESS.

Are you with her because it's what
everyone wants??
-It isn't love, it?it's LOYALTY.

Are you with her because she kissed you,
or held your hand?
-It isn't love, it's LOW CONFIDENCE.

Do you stay for her confessions of love,
because you don't want to hurt her?
-It isn't love, it's PITY.

Do you belong to her because the sight of
her makes your heart skip a beat??
-It isn't love, it's INFATUATION.

Do you pardon her faults because you
care about her?
-It isn't love, it's FRIENDSHIP.

Do you tell her every day she is the only
one you think of?
-It isn't love, it's a LIE.

Are you willing to give up all of your
favorite things for her sake?
-It isn't love, it's CHARITY.

Does your heart ache and break when
she's sad?
-Then it's LOVE.

Do you cry for her pain, even when she's
strong?
-Then it's LOVE.

Do her eyes see your true heart, and
touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
-Then it's LOVE.

Do you stay because a blinding,
incomprehensible
mix of pain and relation pulls you close
and holds
you to her?
-Then it's LOVE.

Do you accept her faults because it's a
part of who she is?
-Then it's LOVE.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with
her faithfully without regret??
-Then it's LOVE.

Would you give her your heart, your life,
your death??
-Then it's LOVE.

now you know...

Thursday, September 08, 2005

Thu, 08 Sep 2005 14:23:36 GMT

SCRIBBLES
by miss aimee

As I sat here alone
I recall all that has been done
Things I did
Things I'll do
But one thing stood out
Only thoughts of you.

I began writing
Then I began scribbling
Theres too much to put into words
I got nothing to write
But i want you to know
All the emotions I've got.

With this in mind
I started to rewind
What we did
What we'll do
I asked questions of doubt
Should I let go?

I felt my tears, I was sad
Then I looked down the paper I had
Lines and endless curves i wrote
I saw your name, i wrote it too
Have no idea of what I've done, i smiled
Beacause I scribbled 3 words;

'I Love You'

Wednesday, August 31, 2005

Wed, 31 Aug 2005 15:45:15 GMT

How Jealous Are You?!?

You are 53.97%jealous!
For this test, the average jealousy percentage is 35.54%.
171722 people have taken this test to date.

This percentage means that :
•You exhibit many jealous traits.
•You are prone to over-react.
•Although your jealousy shouldn't prove to be a real problem, you should work on controlling it more.
•Things aren't often as bad as you think.

Monday, August 29, 2005

Mon, 29 Aug 2005 17:48:44 GMT

If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.

Happy moments, praise God.

Difficult moments, seek God.

Quiet moments, worship God.

Painful moments, trust God.

Every moment, thank God.

Sunday, August 28, 2005

Sun, 28 Aug 2005 14:53:23 GMT

50 Things Girls Wish Guys Knew

1. Don't tell us when you think other girls are hot.
2. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
3. If you don't act like soap-opera guys, don't expect us to dress like Victoria Secret models.
4. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
5. There is no such thing as too much spooning.
6. Just because you L the C doesn't mean we have to S the D.
7. This is how we see it . . . Don't call = Don't Care.
8. Which also means that if we don't call, take the hint.
9. We like you to be a little jealous . . . but overly possessive is not necessary.
10. Putting things in our butt does not turn us on.
11. Return favors: we massage, you massage; we go down, you go down; we shave, you shave (and not just your face).
12. Foreplay is not an option . . . its a prerequisite.
13. We're allowed to be late . . . you are not.
14. Eye contact is key.
15. Don't take longer to get ready than we do.
16. Laugh at our jokes.
17. Three words . . . honesty, honesty, honesty.
18. Girls can be groupies. Guy groupies are stalkers.
19. We never have to wonder if your orgasm was real.
20. Do not start with us. You will not win.
21. Would you like it if a guy treated your sister that way? We didn't think so.
22. If you ask nicely, we usually answer the same way.
23. We will never have enough clothes or shoes!
24. We have an excuse to act bitchy at least once a month.
25. Open the door for us no matter where we are . . . even at our house and getting into the car.
26. We love surprises!
27. We liked to be kissed softly, not with an iron tongue.
28.Pay attention to the little things we do, because they mean the most.
29. Boxers and maybe boxer briefs sometimes . . . NEVER whitey-tighties, NEVER!
30. Clean your room before we come over.
31. Always brush your teeth before you see us . . . a fresh mouth and white teeth are a necessity.
32. When we use our teeth it means that you suck at going down on us, so we are just returning the favor.
33. Even though you are sometimes insensitive and hurt us, we still love you with everything we are.
34. Hit it and quit it, because later I'll be with you're best friend and he lasts for hours.
35. Don't act hard around your friends because I won't make you hard tonight.
36. Sometimes "NO!" really means "NO!"
37. "Wife Beaters" are not an adequate form of fashion.
38. If we wanted to be on video tape, we'd be a porn star not your girlfriend.
39. Sensitive guys are great . . . but crying more than we do in a movie just
isn't right.
40. Don't let ex-girlfriends cause drama, relationships are stressful enough.
41. It takes a special kind of stupid to forget birthdays.
42. Guys who are good cuddlers = guys who know how to satisfy a woman.
43. "Fat Chicks" have feelings too.
44. Silent treatment, shoulder shrugs, tears, yelling and nasty looks all add up to . . . YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG!
45. If you are not a good dancer, please be self-aware.
46. Just because a girl doesn't pick up on the first ring doesn't mean she's not
waiting by the phone.
47. You don't have to spend a lot, if it means a lot.
48. Don't say you love me if you don't mean it.
49. Don't lie to us . . . we will catch you.
50. When the girls get together, we talk about EVERYTHING. Meaning my best friends know everything about you.